Although virtually all psychological theories and schools of thought now acknowledge the central importance of the relationship in psychotherapy, the relationship itself is conceptualized in various ways. In The Relational Approach to Psychotherapy, a ten-lecture series presented in Zheng Dou, china as a continuing education program to hundreds of psychotherapists, Dr. Larry Hedges surveys a 30-year clinical research program into the nature of relationship based on the therapeutic experience of and contributions from over 400 practitioners.
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Terrifying Transferences: Aftershocks of Childhood Trauma
How can therapists treat patients’ primitive anxieties and overwhelming terrors that are not accessible to verbal interpretation or insight? In psychotherapy the traumas suffered in infancy are often reawakened and reexperienced in the safety of the therapeutic relationship. However, to feel connected and safe is an oxymoron for these patients. While they desperately seek attachment, their experience of connection is one of violation and humiliation. Their ways of attaching are at the center of what terrifies patients with early trauma and, in a successful therapy, they structure the development of the transference and come also to terrify the analyst. The therapist is confronted with humiliation and abuse from patients, who find behavioral ways to communicate their histories. These patients require special connection, a new relational experience, before they can learn new relational paradigms. This book shows therapists how to understand the process of trauma re-creation, and move with the client through the reexperiencing of the early physical pain and psychological terror and the blaming of the therapist.
Dr. Hedges’s work with problems rooted in early trauma demonstrates how to stay calm and connected during the inevitable storms that characterize therapy with these difficult patients.
Remembering, Repeating, and Working Through Childhood Trauma
Accusations of child abuse based on memories apparently recovered in psychotherapy, support groups, and similar settings have spurred a national debate. The question most frequently asked is, do these recovered memories refer to real events? This is the wrong question to ask, says Lawrence Hedges, the author of this important work. What is vital is to understand the psychodynamic roots of remembered abuse. Drawing on a century of psychoanalytic study of memory and the way it operates in therapy, Hedges clarifies the misunderstandings and misinformation that currently exist in the media and popular press regarding memory and the nature of the psychotherapeutic process.
Hedges advocates taking recovered memories seriously, which means looking beyond the immediate text of the memory into its psychic origins in early childhood trauma. A person in infancy or early childhood trauma. A person in infancy or early childhood may suffer psychological breakdown or cumulative strain trauma as a result of many different kinds of experiences, such as early illness or hospitalization, the prolonged absence of significant others, early difficulties in feeding or interacting, or stresses due to difficult family circumstances. Such early traumas do not qualify as child abuse. But in the child’s mind the unendurable confusion and pain are attributed to faulty or abusive responses from the environment. When the primordial emotional memories surface years later in therapy, it may be the parents, the therapist, or some other significant person who becomes the target of accusation.
Infantile strain trauma has long been known to leave deep psychological scars that show up as symptoms later in life. The person who senses that there is something deeply wrong inside may undertake therapy in an attempt to define the nature of the trouble and its causes. But since ordinary pictorial and narrational memory are not developed before the third or fourth year of life, other forms of memory are relied on to tell the story in psychotherapy. These may take the form of characterological emotional responses or restrictions in the ways people experience and manage their bodies. Primitive anxieties resulting from traumas that occurred too early in life to be remembered in ordinary ways become condensed into picture of emotionally similar events that occurred later in life and can be more easily recalled. Hedges reviews the many ways in which our memories play tricks on us. He shows how the therapist who is uniformed about the power of transference is likely to collude with the patient’s resistance to transference remembering and thus help the person externalize blame for the experienced trauma onto persons outside the therapeutic relationship and in the distant past.
The cultural themes of incest, cult abuse, multiple personality, past lives, and alien abduction all provide a format or set of metaphors for early trauma to be creatively and effectively elaborated in the therapeutic situation. To merely believe the flashbacks and the memories that people relate in an effort to define and transform themselves in therapy is, in an important way, not to take them seriously.
The incredibly imaginative human mind labors to condense many emotionally similar events, to project these events as pictures onto a psychological screen, and then to endow them with a plausible and vivid narration that can be told and believed. We call the picture and stories thus created “memory.” And because of the subjective emotional impact the images and narrations are bound to have, we feel persuaded that the scenes actually occurred in the way our minds have constructed them. Such memories and flashbacks do not operate like a video recorder but more like dreams, which are effective in condensing emotional truth onto compelling pictures and stories. Memories constructed in this way do tell a certain truth. The job of the psychotherapist is to help unravel that truth and to help patients work through the effects which that truth continues to have on the ways they live their lives.
Therapists at Risk: perils of the intimacy of the therapeutic relationship
Therapists are at risk, and the risk is increasing. Well-meaning practitioners used to believe that if they were adhering to ethical codes, and doing their best, they didn’t have to worry about being sued or brought before licensing boards. but in today’s litigious climate they are worried, and rightfully so. Their concern surfaces at the same time that the professions learning better ways to help particularly troubled patients who have often been badly abused and traumatized.
Dr. Hedges and his co-authors highlight
- the leading ethical and legal dilemmas in therapy today
- the management of malpractice exposure
- the nature of memories and recovered memories and the causes of real and perceived abuse
- the trauma pf psychotic transference and how to acknowledge and deal safely with sexuality
- the plight of the accused therapist and his/her response to the attendant stress
- the nightmare of legal claims and suits and the importance or support for the therapist
This book seeks to help clarify the issues, manage the dangers, and restore confidence in the psychotherapy process for clinicians who are experiencing fear, constriction, and loss of satisfaction in their work.
“Therapists at Risk addresses all those who work in depth with patients who at one time were considered untreatable. These very fragile and difficult patients present new technical problems, and with them the kinds of dangers to therapists that may appear in legal actions. Hedges revisits and expands upon his work on recovered memories, providing new insights into the nature of memory and its function in the therapist-patient relationship and also a penetrating assessment of ‘truth’ in the psychotherapeutic enterprise. The needs of patient and therapist can be a volatile mix indeed, and, using Hedges’ concepts concerning the function of intimacy in the therapeutic interaction, the book describes the emergence of transference psychosis and the threats to therapists of lawsuits. Hedges and his co-authors move well past the traditional notions of countertransference to establish new parameters fo the therapist-patients interaction, as well as projecting the legal cautions that have become increasingly essential for therapeutic work.”
Jacquelyn Gillespie, Ph.D.
Facing the Challenge of Liability in Psychotherapy
Facing the Challenge of Liability in Psychotherapy offers ways for therapists of all persuasions to limit liability while continuing to practice effectively. Dr Hedges demonstrates how therapists can put themselves in a position to defend their practices if ever called on to do so; by developing a series of informed consents covering different situations, by learning how to document ordinary as well as critical incidents, by seeking out peer and expert opinion, and by using community resources as appropriate. Most importantly, Dr. Hedges points out the kinds of clinical and dynamic situations that typically lead to complaints and false accusations against therapists. This updated edition addresses three new major areas of concern–work with minors, child custody evaluations, and compliance with the new federal HIPPA regulations.
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Reviews
Malpractice lawsuits and licensing board complaints are a serious threat to the welfare of psychotherapists. It is fantasy to think that only the culpable are brought before licensing boards or become the targets of malpractice litigation. Being a good person and a competent therapist does not guarantee that one will not be forced to defend the profession, often with the very right to continue practicing at stake. Anyone who works with borderline patients, families, children, or very sick patients is at risk. It is that simple, and it is only at one’s peril that one denies this fact. In reading Dr. Hedges’ latest work, we can take a meaningful step out of the confusion that surrounds many psychotherapists today about the source and nature of their vulnerability before licensure boards and malpractice tribunals. It will be time well spent. (Bryant L. Welch, J.D., Ph.D.)
Dr. Lawrence Hedges’ book is an insightful explanation of the ethical and legal pitfalls facing psychotherapists in the new millennium. His in-depth exploration of the issues and his practical suggestions to minimize risks should help therapists avoid ethical dilemmas and possible litigation. Dr. Hedges also explores and refutes a number of popular myths about administrative and civil litigation. This book will be very valuable to any practicing psychotherapist who hopes to avoid being a defendant in a civil suit or in an action by licensing board. (O. Brandt Caudill, Jr., Esq.,)
This book is a wonderful gift to the profession, deeply educational and eminently useful. So many of us are babes in the woods concerning the intersection of the clinical, ethical, legal, and human issues in professional practice. Dr. Hedges knows these woods and, through this book, he has made them much safer. He is uniquely qualified for this task. As a depth-oriented therapist, expert on personality disorders, and longtime consultant to therapists, he appreciates the clinical and human issues as well as the risks. As a forensic expert and educator, he has helped many of us to anticipate and handle the hazards, from the most well meaning to the most malevolent. Dr. Hedges loves these woods and I can think of no more knowledgeable and friendly guide with whom to explore them. (Stephen M. Johnson, Ph.D)
…any mental health professional who practices what could be termed ?psychotherapy? will find this an immensely helpful volume, especially if he or she has done no ethics reading since the final implementation of the Health Information Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) or since recent court decisions have changed the landscape of practicing psychotherapy (p. 209). This is a manual for practicing as defensively as possible, without giving up your principles or delivering an ineffective service to your client. At times one is likely to disagree with the author’s recommendations or feel that they are too idealistic. At the same time, it is good for psychotherapists to have an ideal to hold their practices up against. Every time the reader has an objection, I would challenge him or her to make sure there is a good reason for it because Hedges has solid reasoning and years of experience backing every recommendation. The first two chapters lay a solid groundwork for a myriad of basics that alltherapists should consider having as regular practices. Time and again Hedges does an excellent job of reducing a concept to the practical issues involved and gives you a clear idea how to apply it to your practice. …many of the risks discussed apply (Psyccritiques?Contemporary Psychology: Apa Review Of Books)
Dr. Lawrence Hedges’ latest book, the only one of its kind, is an outstandingly comprehensive and comprehensible handbook about the art of practicing defensively. Before I was even half way through the book, I was making changes in the way I conduct my practice. Hedges is eminently qualified to take on this task of educating mental health clinicians to the perils of practicing in these litigious times: he is not only a well-seasoned, highly respected senior psychoanalyst and teacher/supervisor but also the ‘go-to’ person for therapists in trouble with their licensing boards and/or at risk for being sued. Particularly noteworthy is the passion that fills every single page of this spell-binding volume; clearly, Hedges truly cares and is deeply committed topassing on to the reader all the wisdom he has accumulated from his many years in the field. A real page turner, this essential guide is a must-read for all practitioners interested in learning about what they must do in order to minimize their chances ofhaving either a complaint or a lawsuit filed against them. Ultimately, however, because it gives clinicians the tools necessary to avoid what might otherwise turn into a ghastly nightmare, perhaps the worst experience in their professional lives, Hedges’ (Martha Stark, M.D.,)
…any mental health professional who practices what could be termed “psychotherapy” will find this an immensely helpful volume, especially if he or she has done no ethics reading since the final implementation of the Health Information Portability and Accountability Act of 1996 (HIPAA) or since recent court decisions have changed the landscape of practicing psychotherapy (p. 209). This is a manual for practicing as defensively as possible, without giving up your principles or delivering an ineffective service to your client. At times one is likely to disagree with the author’s recommendations or feel that they are too idealistic. At the same time, it is good for psychotherapists to have an ideal to hold their practices up against. Every time the reader has an objection, I would challenge him or her to make sure there is a good reason for it because Hedges has solid reasoning and years of experience backing every recommendation. The first two chapters lay a solid groundwork for a myriad of basics that all therapists should consider having as regular practices. Time and again Hedges does an excellent job of reducing a concept to the practical issues involved and gives you a clear idea how to apply it to your practice. …many of the risks discussed apply to the various types of therapy and can be discussed more generally. An excellent chapter points out why we need to rethink the language of dual relationships. This is important not only to psychodynamic practitioners but also to those from other theoretical perspectives. In addition, Hedges covers the required HIPAA discussion, requisite in any book of this kind, in very clear language. Each of these chapters is worth the price of the book alone, as any error you correct could save you up to a hundred or a thousand times the cost of the book retail. The materials on the CD that cover these areas appear helpful and standard, and would not require much—if any—alteration if you are a nonpsychodynamic practitioner. Thus, reading Hedges’s offering should h (Psyccritiques—Contemporary Psychology: Apa Review Of Books)
Dr. Lawrence Hedges’ latest book, the only one of its kind, is an outstandingly comprehensive and comprehensible handbook about the art of practicing defensively. Before I was even half way through the book, I was making changes in the way I conduct my practice. Hedges is eminently qualified to take on this task of educating mental health clinicians to the perils of practicing in these litigious times: he is not only a well-seasoned, highly respected senior psychoanalyst and teacher/supervisor but also the ‘go-to’ person for therapists in trouble with their licensing boards and/or at risk for being sued. Particularly noteworthy is the passion that fills every single page of this spell-binding volume; clearly, Hedges truly cares and is deeply committed to passing on to the reader all the wisdom he has accumulated from his many years in the field. A real page turner, this essential guide is a must-read for all practitioners interested in learning about what they must do in order to minimize their chances of having either a complaint or a lawsuit filed against them. Ultimately, however, because it gives clinicians the tools necessary to avoid what might otherwise turn into a ghastly nightmare, perhaps the worst experience in their professional lives, Hedges’ book on practicing defensively empowers and holds out hope for all of us. (Martha Stark, M.D.,)
Working the Organizing Experience
This book defines, in a clear and compelling manner, the most fundamental and treacherous of transference phenomena: emotional experiences retained from the first few months of life. Hedges takes the position that most negative therapeutic reactions resulting in premature terminations, malpractice suits, and complaints against therapists to licensing boards and ethics committees can be traced to traumas endured in infancy and transferred into the relationship of psychotherapy.
Hedges introduces the term the organizing experience to chart the course of early trauma to its impact on adult living and the transference situation. He describes the infant’s primary life task as organizing Chanels to the human nurturing environment—first physiological connections to the mother and others. During the organizing experience, inevitable traumas leave memory traces that affect subsequent interpersonal relationships. Even if the infant has the good fortune to be born healthy and into an optimal family environment, he or she must endure intense moments of needing and desiring that are not or cannot be responded to in the exact ways or in the precise time frames the infant needs to maintain a sense of internal harmony and continuity. What then becomes conditioned during the organizing period is a terror and avoidance of certain kinds of interpersonal connections or situations because the infant initially found them traumatizing.
The central feature of the organizing transference is the way in which each person characteristically disconnects from a potentially over- or under stimulating interpersonal situation. The disconnecting is accomplished through representational memories from infancy of experiences of broken, ruptured, or withered connections to the nurturing environment. When working through the organizing transference the therapist collaborates to develop ways for the patient to remain safely and satisfyingly present in interpersonal relating.
Interpreting the Countertransference
Interpreting the Countertransference organizes the varieties of listener (therapist) responsiveness along a developmental axis of human relatedness possibilities. He offers fresh alternatives to long-standing problems of countertransference responsiveness and provides specific ways for the professional listener to being systematically considering his or her emotional reactions to clients.
Hedges defines a paradigm shift of major proportions that characterizes psychoanalytic thought in the last two decades. A key idea among the rich offerings this book provides is that intense, persistent, and troubling listener-responsiveness can be considered as originating from a preverbal symbiotic level of relatedness expression that belongs to the speaker’s early life history. Through nonverbal emotional relatedness, the speaker in analysis communicates to his or her listener what Christopher Bollas has called “the unthought known.” It is the listener’s task to perceive and to being the joint process of articulating crucial formative and enduring patterns of experience from the speaker’s infantile past. In this undertaking the countertransference is shown by Hedges to be a key informer.
Hedges maintains that knowing how to interpret the countertransference is a critical new skill required for understanding all intense emotional relationships, especially those encountered in psychotherapy and psychoanalysis.
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“Hedges clearly and beautifully delineates the components and forms of countertransferences and explicates the techniques of carefully proffered countertransference-informed interventions. This significant paradigmatic shift is that countertransference and relatedness replace the older medical model of objectivity. Thus, the patient, now the ‘experiencing speaker,’ and the analyst, now the ‘experiencing listener,’ are inextricably bound together as a pair. The analyst’s countertransference is the quintessence of that experience and a most valuable contribution to the outcome for the treatment. Another paradigmatic shift is his view that all countertransferences, no matter how much they belong to the analyst, are unconsciously evoked by the patient who avails himself of the analyst’s real personality attributes in order to live out unconscious scenarios.”
James Grotstein, M.D.
“By shifting focus to process, forms of relatedness, patterns of engagement, and modes of exchange, Dr. Hedges captures and helps create a major new therapeutic paradigm. He systematically demonstrates how the therapist-listener can make use of his/her own feelings to understand the speaker and help the speaker see and ultimately change lifelong forms of relatedness. This exciting new consciousness extends what has gone before and is supported by a plethora of fascinatingly presented case material.”
Charles Coverdale, Ph.D.
“This book is more than a textbook. It is a powerful means for the psychotherapist to move himself into the world of the patient and to be committed to eternal learning.”
Rudolf Ekstein, Ph.D.
“In his book, Interpreting the Countertransference, Dr. Hedges extends the current understanding of countertransference into a new dimension. He accomplishes far more than that. He challenges the ‘well doctor-sick patient’ assumptions of current psychotherapy practice, and with a combination of passion and scholarly brilliance guides the reader through the most creative thinking of our time and into a new ‘self and other’ paradigm for doing psychotherapy.”
Virginia Wink Hilton, Ph.D.
Listening Perspectives in Psychotherapy
Listening Perspectives is a classic in psychotherapy and psychoanalysis. It deserves to be kept alive for a long, long time.
First, and most obviously, Listening Perspectives… is a tour de force of scholarship and integration. It is a unifying review of the most important contributions of psychoanalysis beginning with Freud and extending to our time. Hedges brings together these diverse and often complex ideas with two organizing themes which are intimately related. The first is developmental—a catalogue of the requirements, achievements, and possible arrests in development that help define personality and psychic structure. This developmental focus is presented in a relational frame such that the successes and failures of relational development are brought into bold relief. This developmental-relational perspective then leads directly to the understandings and interventions of the psychotherapy.
Hedges’ third organizing theme is his most innovative. That theme is given in the most unusual title: Listening Perspectives… When truly understood, this view of things produces a profound shift in consciousness. It leads to the use of knowledge, constructs, and theories to understand a reality far more complex than the knowledge, constructs or theories themselves. It halts the search for the “real” truth and opens the way to finding the most useful perspectives. It leads to flexibility in listening and responding. It shifts the focus from the knowledge to the person of the client and the person of the therapist. The knowledge is not lost; it is reformatted as a perspective from which to understand and act. And, the perspective which proves most useful for understanding and action can shift at any time. This orientation to perspective allows us to integrate or juxtapose or incorporate perspectives as they serve the larger purposes of understanding and action. The recognition of the mind’s unfortunate tendency to reify constructs opens greater potential for not making that fatal error—to keep the maps maps and not confuse them with the territory. This orientation to knowledge and its function is related to a number of interacting trends in science and culture—among these are theories of chaos and complexity, constructionism, and post-modernity.
In what follows, I intend to review the four basic listening perspectives proposed by Hedges and amplify on their developmental, relational, and post-modern aspects. For each developmental perspective, Hedges provides a broad review but relies on a key group of theorists and writers.
The first developmental perspective labeled “organizing” emphasizes the infant’s achievement of organizing sensory experience, contact, connection, and mutuality. In explicating this perspective Hedges relies mainly on Klein, Searles, Giovacchni and Freud’s early ideas on the reflex arc. In addition, he employs Franz Kafka’s fiction to illustrate the phenomenology of the person arrested in this earliest period.
One need only read a little of Kafka’s The Trial or The Castle to experience the frightening and numbing disorganization of one urgently trying to make sense of worlds that make no sense. A great deal of data on secure vs. insecure attachment supports the assertion that the earliest period of human life centers on “making sense” of human experience and requires an attentive, empathic, attuned caretaker capable of sensitive resonance and mutual cueing (e.g. see Siegel, 1999 for a review of this attachment research).
When this mutual organizing process has more or less failed, you see, hear, and feel some the following: (1) More mechanical-like functioning in affect, language, behavior, posture, images, personal relations, self and other perceptions, etc. (2) Anxiety about and withdrawal from social contact with an underlying longing for that perfectly soothing resonance and nurturance that was absent when most needed. (3) Guilt for being alive and having needs, which the caregivers could not provide, and guilt, too, for not being able to repair these caregivers so that they might be more human and give what a human infant needs. (4) A lack of organization in the early self-system can produce “striking behavior patterns of self-mutilation, hallucinatory creations, hypochondriacal complaints and exaggerated affect states” (p. 229).
The relational requirements of the “good enough” therapist derive from this developmental perspective:The therapist, like the parent, must patiently wait until the person is momentarily oriented for contact. Contact is usually fleeting and, in essence non-verbal (though words and sounds may constitute the medium of contact). Then comes the smile, laugh or warm squeeze, which forces attention on (and reinforces?) the organizing and transformational contact…. The wise mother, just as the wise therapist, is alert and attentive but saves her energy for the moment that counts—the moment of orientation when the infant/patient can be met in his/her own extension (p. 229).
An equally important relational aspect of this perspective is the appreciation for and utilization of the therapist’s organizing capacities. This includes the therapist’s abilities to form a “therapeutic symbiosis” as well as his or her empathy (based on similarity) for a disorganized early self-system. Included, too, is an appreciation for a co-created intimacy or merger state that can be beneficial, blissful and nurturing for every human being. Once this state can be reliably achieved, the groundwork is set for an eventual differentiation. Much of Hedges’ subsequent work within this tradition has been devoted to further explicating the organizing perspective (Hedges, 1994a; 1994b; 2000).
The listening perspective approach to all of this demands a shift from “believing in” or “looking for” what is “really out there” (e.g. the schizoid personality disorder or the internalized bad object) to an appreciation for the value of useful constructs that help us to think, understand, listen, empathize, or act. Using the organizing perspective we are urged to remember the organizing qualities and possible arrests of everyone—whatever other strengths or vulnerabilities they may present. Hedges mentions the likely presence of organizing issues in the deeper analysis of Narcissistic and Borderline disorders. I believe they are common in every serious personality disorder. But, the most important point here is that many perspectives can serve. They are constructs that structure, not realities that constrain. They are tools that usefully simplify a much more complex reality for our relatively simple thinking minds..
The earliest organizing of human connection and sensory experience leads to the establishment of symbiosis. The failure to establish a good enough symbiosis produces arrest in the organizing process. When, however, there is contamination of that symbiosis or when there is a failure in subsequent differentiation from it, one sees arrests in symbiosis. Hedges uses the label Borderline Personality Organization to characterize these difficulties and emphasizes the myriad ways in which we can experience a troubled merger attachment. He employs the constructs of a number of well-known analysts to exemplify the basic road map for symbiosis (primarily Mahler) and the varieties of potential arrests they can experience (primarily Kernberg, Masterson, Winnicott, and Klein). The concepts of splitting, incorporation, introjection, projective identification, false self, replication transference or “scenarios”, self and other representation and affective linking, dysregulation, and differentiation are used to build this listening perspective.
The resulting model is broad and complex but, as with the Organizing Personality, he offers a guiding unifying principle, particularly helpful to the practitioner. This is the emphasis on the patient’s need for the replication of one or more idiosyncratic symbiotic scenarios from which differentiation has not yet been accomplished. The emergence of these scenarios in therapy, and the often-incessant demands for their contemporary replication is both diagnostic and prescriptive. In this book, as well as in a subsequent one on this structure (Hedges, 1992), there is exquisite attention to the need for the therapist to participate or co-create this replication. Therapists in supervision are often embarrassed to “confess” the extent to which they have accomplished this essential step because what is usually required is totally antithetical to neutrality and abstinence. A newer model of development, relational understanding, and treatment is necessary to comprehend the need for this sometimes unusual therapeutic stance. Hedges is very reassuring about this yet not neglectful of the corresponding need for boundaries and sanity. Still, one who takes on a patient with this personality organization must be willing to bend—sometimes a lot! Knowing that this is necessary and knowing why it is necessary makes it far easier to do with appropriate limits.
And then incrementally, thankfully, the perspective changes to emphasize the latter phases of symbiosis—separation/individuation. Here, the patient needs to move on and the therapist needs to welcome, support, and sometimes nudge. Premature nudging is still the most common therapeutic error but fostering dependency is not unheard of.
This is the relational map; But the map is still a map. Hedges comments on the utility of behavior modification and social skills training for the Borderline patient. Similarly, he emphasizes the unique symbiotic preferences which we all have and the universal appeal of “Mommy and I are one”. In any therapy or in any relationship, this listening perspective may be called for, and, at any time. Here is the chaos, and the complexity. Hedges’ work makes us ready to shift, to understand, and to act—now in “organizing”, now in “merger” or now…
In the third listening perspective, we orient to the next developmental achievement: a cohesive self and a smoothly regulated self-esteem. Hedges relies almost exclusively on Heinz Kohut to explicate this process. Kohut’s view is supremely developmental-relational,relying on the key role of the self-object to empathetically mirror the individual’s emerging real self. Also required is self-object repair of the inevitable disappointments and empathic failures that occur in life. When this basic process fails, one sees narcissistic pathology:…self pathology is characterized by a flaw in the regulation of self-esteem which results from a poorly developed self. The chief complaints are usually vague and diffuse with the person feeling unable to derive joy from the pursuit of his ambitions or goals as well as a failure to develop talents satisfactorily (p. 57).
One often sees the other common narcissistic qualities: extreme sensitivity to disappointment and criticism, the split in self-esteem—grandiosity/worthlessness, relating to others as self-objects, a history of shaming and/or idealization, excessive self-involvement and entitlement, etc.
Once again, when this perspective is appropriate, the requirements of the therapist are the same as those of the original caretaker. However accomplished the adult patient may be, a person suffering narcissistic pathology is operating with the emotional maturity of a very little boy or girl and needs the very same thing that child needed. This is sometimes hard to remember when we experience the predictable irritation at being treated as an object (i.e. a self-object). This counter-transference reaction is, in itself, a good signal that this third listening perspective should be called upon for understanding and action.
Hedges is, once again, very helpful in suggesting to the therapist a single organizing principle for treatment. This is, first, the creation of an “empathic situation that will recreate the early self-object atmosphere”. Then, “the therapist tunes into the patient and waits for signs of his own empathic failures” (p. 60). It is largely the pain, but also the understanding and repair of this “optimally failing empathy” that leads to the “transmuting internalizations” required for the repair of the self (Kohut’s words in quotation). Kohut described this internalization process as one akin to mourning wherein the narcissistic person experiences the pain of the loss of the external self-object(s) and, in that crucible, the creation of internal abilities to self-soothe and self-regulate (see p. 61).
This listening perspective, like the others, tells you what to orient to, what to wait for, and what to do with that when it emerges. Is this oversimplified? Of course it is! Hedges, Kohut, and others have much more to say to fill out this listening perspective. Still, in the chaos and complexity of therapeutic interaction, it is extremely useful to have a navigational heading to which you can return at any time, and there, locate the ground.
In the fourth listening perspective, Hedges employs the classic psychoanalytic model for therapeutic understanding and action for neurotic functioning. The essence of this perspective involves attunement to internal emotional conflict. The desire for power and the fear of having it would be an example. The desire for revenge vs. the fear of retaliation or guilt for anticipated harm would be another.
These conflicts are often more or less unconscious and neurotic symptoms are often compromise solutions to these conflicting desires, drives, or instincts. “The conflicts typically are conceived of between such things as impulses vs. defenses or Parent tapes vs. the Adult or the Child” (p.57). These conflicts also emerge in dreams, in resistance to free-association, in transference both in and out of the consulting room, etc.
For life in general, and particularly in psychotherapy, these conflicts are usually brought from the past (i.e. they are genetic). The transference manifestations are then conceived of differently from those exhibited in the other three perspectives. The patient is not arrested in needing fulfillment of unmet needs— for connection, merger, or self-object resonance. And, the therapeutic task is not to restore the developmental flow to the next point of maturation. Rather, the patient is stuck in unconscious internal emotional conflict and in a dysfunctional, neurotic solution to it. In the classical point of view, the therapist’s job is done when all this is brought to consciousness.
Once again, Hedges is helpful to the practitioner in providing a review of the necessary therapeutic stance for this situation. That stance is essentially Freudian and oriented to (1) understanding the patient and bringing to ever-greater consciousness the conflict and the functions of the neurotic solution and (2) achieving this through the analysis of resistance and transference. In this process, the therapist’s role is to “limit his/her influence as much as possible” (p.41). Since the problem is viewed as internal to the patient, the therapist is not to bring in activity that will only interfere with that essential process.
Hedges is very faithful to Freud in this review, outlining all of this in the context of the Oedipal conflict from which this model was derived. But, both implicitly and explicitly, he suggests the broader therapeutic application of the conflict model.
In the Introduction to the twentieth anniverary edition, Hedges writes:Intersubjectively viewed, the four different relational frames or self and other Listening Perspectives, encourage mutual surrender…to a process in which different modes, styles, or patternings of internalized self and other possibilities are active at different moments in the ongoing therapeutic relationship—or perhaps predominate during different phases of the therapeutic work.
Put another way, even though an individual may be best understood, in general, using the organizing, merger, or self-object listening perspective, she may, at any moment, be better understood using another, including the conflict model. Simply put, the “Narcissist”, the “Borderline”, the “Schizoid” can also be “neurotic”. And, maybe, the more differentiated and developmentally mature she gets, the more “neurotic” she will become. As self and other, as affects, as defenses become more differentiated and mature, the more relevant will be internal emotional conflict. Or, someone best understood as “neurotic” most of the time may dip into an earlier arrest, and an alternative listening perspective may then be most useful. Listening Perspectives… has many gifts but this is its greatest, and this is the reason, more than any other, why it is a classic.
Stephen Johnson PhD
Strategic Emotional Involvement
Today therapists no longer guard the fact that their clients emotionally affect them in sometimes deeply gripping ways. In Strategic Emotional Involvement therapists open the private doors of their consulting rooms to share heartfelt countertransference and how they came to use these feelings for therapeutic success. Now we know that to work effectively, psychotherapists must be strong, active, dynamic, straightforward, penetrating, truthful, and real in ways hardly imaginable to their predecessors. Strategic Emotional Involvement is a comprehensive clinical text on the inevitability of therapists’ responsiveness and how they use this in the therapeutic process.
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“Lawrence Hedges pushes intersubjectivity and countertransference to the cutting edge in order to validate the necessity of the listener’s (therapist’s) need to avail him/herself of his/her own personal issues as they intersect with those of the speaker’s (patient’s), which not only may interfere with the development and maintenance of the necessary relatedness of the ‘symbiotic dance’ but may also be a repetition of the past failures to develop that dance, a phenomenon the author speaks of as the ‘organizing experience.’ Strategic emotional involvement constitutes a protocol of listener techniques that allow therapists to avail themselves of their countertransference even more fully, tactfully, and effectively in order to re-establish the dance. One is reminded of Alexander’s ‘corrective emotional experience’ but in a newer, more reliable, and more clinically tested way.”
James S. Grotstein
“Dr. Hedges has once again ventured into groundbreaking territory. These writings illustrate the profound complexity and depth of the interplay between the two people in the therapeutic encounter while guiding the ‘listener’ in the skillful and essential use of countertransference. I, too, cried over Ronnie’s pigeons and was angered with Albert’s hiding in stupidity. Hedges clearly demonstrates that it is through the therapeutic, strategic emotional involvement that healing occurs.”
Linda C. Sanicola
In Search of the Lost Mother of Infancy
Through case examples, this book illuminates the elusive and shadowed terrain of primitive strivings for the lost connection with mother at the earliest developmental level and how this searching is manifested in life and in the consulting room. It provides the professional with guidelines to identify how the terror of human contact and relating is at the root of the organizing (psychotic) level and the pockets of disorganized material that may be present, under stress, in highly functioning persons. It introduces the fact that the fight, flight or freezing reactions to early contact dysjunctions with the primary caretaker register somatically and that in treatment they need to be met at this preverbal level. Hedges discusses how these organizing responses appear in the relationship with the therapist. Every conscientious, empathic clinician can relate to the experience of working to connect with someone who at the very moment of conjunctions seems to disappear.
The author provides a window to understanding and dealing with conditions that have historically eluded treatment. The case examples illustrate how to track the moments of connection and disconnection that occur in the therapeutic relationship. The primary therapeutic focus is to eventually engage the client in monitoring these moments of contact and rupture. Attention is paid more to the structure of the therapeutic relationship that to the literal content of what the patient says.
Countertransference feelings and sensations stirred in the listener serve as cues to the client’s efforts for contact and its inevitable rupture. However, these are not interpreted. With such patients the therapist needs to tolerate experiencing some of his or her own organizing material. The case studies bring alive the struggles in working with the organizing, presymbiotic experience. In a refreshing fashion, the emphasis is placed on the strivings for human connectedness rather than on pathology, and on the primitive puzzling blocks to interpersonal relatedness.
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